Yeah. Still not drunk enough.
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9
I have never made it to the anger stage with my dad and I don’t feel like I ever will. That’s not to say I still allow him to impact me because I do not have a relationship with him at all. But I don’t feel anger towards him or what he did.
I did have a ton of anger towards my mom but I tried to drop it all when she got sick. It was more forced that honest though and I do hope to one day find a way to forgive and let go. It’s so weird that I find my mom’s lack of action so much more unforgiveable than my dad’s actions. But I guess we don’t choose how we respond as children and once it’s embedded, it’s so difficult to move past it.(via creatingaquietmind)
People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get angry about what happened to them. They need to grieve over the fact that they never had the parental love they yearned for. They need to stop diminishing or discounting the damage that was done to them. Too often, “forgive and forget” means “pretend it didn’t happen.”
I also believe that forgiveness is appropriate only when parents do something to earn it. Toxic parents, especially the more abusive ones, need to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and show a willingness to make amends. If you unilaterally absolve parents who continue to treat you badly, who deny much of your reality and feelings, and who continue to project blame onto you, you may seriously impede the emotional work you need to do. If one or both parents are dead, you can still heal the damage, by forgiving yourself and releasing much of the hold that they had over your emotional well-being.
At this point, you may be wondering, understandably, if you will remain bitter and angry for the rest of your life if you don’t forgive your parents. In fact, quite the opposite is true. What I have seen over the years is that emotional and mental peace comes as a result of releasing yourself from your toxic parents’ control, without necessarily having to forgive them. And that release can come only after you’ve worked through your intense feelings of outrage and grief and after you’ve put the responsibility on their shoulders, where it belongs.
I really really reaaaally loved Iron Man 3.
I knew I was going to love it the moment “Blue” started playing over the intro.
Also Pepperony feels. All of dem. ALL OF DEM.
So I’ll just be over here, watching it again as I go to spleep because I have 39 days before Capaldi makes an appearance.
Accoring to THIS ARTICLE Peter Capaldi’s Doctor is based on David Bowie. How amazingly Awesome is that?
From the article:
The Thin White Doc: New Doctor Who based on David Bowie
EVERY new Doctor Who puts a unique spin on the character – and Peter Capaldi is no exception.
By: Jaymi McCann - Published: Sun, June 29, 2014
David Bowie has inspired Peter Capaldi’s version of the inconic Time Lord [BBC/PH]
The 55-year-old took inspiration from music legend David Bowie when embarking on his tenure as the 12th incarnation of the Time Lord.
His sleek costume was praised when it was previewed in January but the decision to include a buttoned-up white shirt was inspired by Bowie, according to insiders.
The singer sported a similar look as the Thin White Duke, his persona on the Station To Station album cover and in the film The Man Who Fell To Earth.
The source said Capaldi had decided Bowie was the ideal template for his Doctor: “He explained he drew inspiration for his Doctor Who look from his ‘scrapbook of ideas’. He thought Bowie was the perfect look.”
It was no secret that Peter was a Ziggy Stardust fan, and the actor revealed last year he attended three out of four Bowie concerts as a young fan in Glasgow, missing the last one only because he couldn’t afford it.
If this is true. If this is actual facts. I do not know how to can.
I have lost the ability to can. BECAUSE REASONS.